Stories Define Our Outlook & Future

3 MIN READ

I live every day with a sense of “living the last chapter.” I live my life to the full in my work, my relationships and my health. I make choices to advance forward. To make brave new steps into the life that I want to have, being true to myself in purpose and action. My aunty once asked me about the intentions I had for my business, and I said, “Oh that’s simple. World domination.”

We are all too familiar with prioritising the needs of others above our own, but some of the things that I have learned recently have made me realise that many of you might be working a story that could do with an edit. Mental illness is the leading cause of disability worldwide. In Australia, one in five of us are fighting through a battle with our mental health right now, and the studies show us that 45% of Australians are expected to encounter this struggle at some stage of their lives. Learning how to tell stories that transform the outcomes of your life could be a game-changer.

If changing seasons have taught me anything at all it is this:

In our stories we hold our greatest power to define our outlook, and so our future

My silent season of voice loss and then recovery gave me the chance to change the stories I told myself. I had started that part of my life angry and resentful that I had lost something that I thought was central to my happiness and fulfilment. All this belief gave me was stress, depression, and an adjustment disorder that threatened to choke me with an anxiety that wouldn’t let me change. To make progress through it, I had to turn away from this mindset completely, and I had to embrace all of the opportunities that this chapter offered. At the heart of it all, I came to know myself better, and to appreciate myself for simply being me. This new gratitude opened my eyes to the strengths, skills and attributes that I already had. These assets had not been lost. They were sitting there waiting for me to unearth them and direct them towards new expression.100_1368

I put my self to work, and I found new ways to love. The loving commitment that used to train my dog every day now took her on longs walks and runs, where I could share my beautiful world with her in silence. The talkative, extroverted love that I used to splash around in my family now gave more to quality time, doing family things quietly and being grateful to simply bask in their company, without saying a word. The passion that used to partner me with my husband in business meetings and customer service now let him take the lead, while I worked behind the scenes to keep it all moving forward. The love that I had for classroom teaching became a small homework centre that met for only one hour each week. And then, as my contentment started to release my voice from the stranglehold of anxiety, my teaching turned into lecturing at university, where the lecture hall microphone preserved my recovery and allowed me to expand my horizons in the career that I loved. As I pushed forward into new seasons I made choices to grow into a richer better version of the person that I already was. I didn’t find a new me. But I did find new ways to be me, in purity and truth.

We all have stories we tell ourselves. So often we expect them to make sense, to go the way we think they should, to be what we have experienced before, and to make our expectations of the future come true. Sometimes, time can feel like the enemy, because she ushers in changes that we can barely withstand. But, there is another way of seeing this. Time is the perfect host for our ongoing stories, because she allows us to see each instant as a rolling continuation of life, connected by the glue of the clock. Our actions, and the Happenings of each moment, can easily be traced to things that have occurred Before, and they can also be understood as introducing things that will occur After.

When my aunty asked me about my business that day, I was bold and a bit cheeky. But the answer I gave her was more than empty words or arrogant ambition. Yes, my answer described my story of business growth and expansion, but it was more than this. My answer also tapped into the part of me that takes full responsibility for my contribution to this journey. You see, I don’t want to control you, I want to control me. I want to take bold steps into tomorrows that exist only because I make them so. I want to look straight into the eye of my capacity, and know that I have served my purpose in the world because I took up the challenge. I want to live up to the high calling of my purpose, and use it to serve others with a passion that can’t be stopped.

 

Possessing The Spoils

3 MIN READ

Taking hold of that thing burning in your heart requires more than hoping and praying. You will only ever bring that spectacular thing to life if you ready your mind, fix your gaze, and dare to take the leap that will change everything, forever. In the moment that you dare to own your opportunity, you grab it with both hands, and you are alive like never before. You know that this is what you were born for.  This magic moment will set you free and make it all worthwhile.

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The golden sun of reward shines when you step out of the shadow

To possess the spoils of your power, you see yourself taking deliberate strides of action. Strategic, intentional strides that leave no room for question, doubt or pause. These strides are those of your Infinite Self taking action in your world, and they are a sight to behold. They propel you along a pathway of constant improvement and they lead you to places that were once only a dream. These strides drive you to take hold of the prize that you have longed for. You move forward, inch by inch, moment by moment, into the rewards of your efforts.

You look around at an unknown landscape, humbled by the progress, silenced by the loneliness, and terrified by the strange new sights. You have never been here before, but you know there is no turning back. The people here are foreign, but they will be your new companions. The choices here are confusing, but you have confidence that you will find your feet. The opportunities here are ones you have never encountered before, but they glisten like the sun and they assure you that you are in the right place. Here is where you always wanted to be. This new world holds the chances you hoped for and the rewards that you wanted all along.

The fact that it is all new is not cause for alarm. It is cause for celebration. You have already done away with the Old. This is the New that your choices have brought you to. This is the blue-ribbon prize, the pot of gold, the field with the greener grass. It is strange to be here, but you know that you are spoiled for anything else now. To persist and continue in the break-throughs that await are the only options that your Infinite Self will allow. So relax … enjoy … settle in. This is real. It is the reality that you have created with the work of your hands. It is real because you made it so.

These steps are not an imagination or whimsy. They are not the positive affirmation you tell yourself in the bathroom mirror, or the dream of someone that wished their life away. These steps are alive and active. They are as deliberate and as powerful as the striking of a hammer, and they take you into successes that transform the landscape of your life. You watch the point of no return come and go, and you are still pushing forward, like a bull at the gate of your opportunity.

With everything inside, you know you will never go back. You are done with old ways of thinking, acting, talking, being. Your hands are clean, your heart is pure, and your eyes are like an eagle’s, set firmly on the rewards of the journey that you can inherit today. Take time to bask in this sunlight that shines when you are outside of the shadow. You have earned it. You are alive here in this new place of growth, and you are free.

Our Words Are Our Power

2 MIN READ

I love being introduced as Kerry Anne Nelson. It is perfectly appropriate because it is actually my name, so that works well! But if you and I were closer, you would know that I am rarely called Kerry Anne in my everyday life. If you were my Aunty Sandy, you would call me that. If you were my mum loving on me, you would call me Kerry Anne for sure, and you might even venture to Kerry Anna… or if you were my dad and I was annoying you, you would definitely call me Kerry Anne. These days, being called Kerry Anne has special significance for me.

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In our stories we gather everything we need to grow

My dad’s voice still speaks to me loud and clear as an adult, with his words echoing in my years all these decades later. “Think before you speak Kerry Anne” was something he used to say … A LOT! In my younger years I found this so completely frustrating and it made me angry, because it felt like he was trying to silence me… but now, I see the wisdom in those pearls. Some things need to be silenced, while others need to be shouted from the rooftops. The trick is knowing what’s what. You see, I am a talker and a sharer … I always have been. But now, as an adult, with a few seasons of growth and change under my belt, I prefer the title Professional Speaker. It is far more flattering than the names I used to attract like “chatterbox” or “loudmouth”. What I especially like about the title “Professional Speaker” is that it starts to give us a clue about the power I have found in being intentional with the things I say. It dawned on me a little while ago that Kerry Anne Nelson was the perfect Professional Speaker name, because I am thinking before I speak, Kerry Anne!

Our words are connected to our power. In fact, these two parts of ourselves are tied so closely that I would call them inseparable. Both the words we say to ourselves, and the words we say out loud to others, direct us through life like a rudder on a ship. Proverbs says that the power of life and death is in our tongue, and Ghandi says “A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” This means that our power is our words … In fact, it means our words have so much power that we actually become them.

Who we are and how we travel through life’s journey hangs on the power of our words. Truly knowing this as a transforming reality is empowerment defined. We all share the same superpower: Our words create reality. Let’s choose words of Life! Freedom! Success! Joy! Courage! Health! Growth! Let’s use our words to create our own personalised experience of Unstoppable Freedom